What's Wrong with Cinderella? by soultrawler on Blogster

She wouldn't let her daughter read any fairytales: "Take Cinderella, for example: it just teaches a girl that to be marriageable, you have to be beautiful." Well, OK, if that's really what her 4 year old daughter would come away with.

For me, that's not what that story ever communicated to me: instead, the notion it planted in me was that one day, there'd be a guy who'd love me so much that nobody else would do, and he'd either scour the world till he found me and/or like Jacob working his tail off for Rachel, he'd be willing to wait forever to get my hand.

So, what do you guys think about the influence of fairy tales? And which ones left which impression with you when you were little?

8 comments on What's Wrong with Cinderella?

skyeblue said 10 months ago
I'm ashamed to say, that at my age, and looking like a fat old Indian squaw --I have never found my [BLUSH] "soul mate." I say that being a pragmatic, practical person, I still am thinking one day, some way, maybe he'll come along. Isn't that pathetic? That's what comes from being inculcated with Cinderella stories when you're a young'un. [TONGUE][ROLLEYES]
soultrawler said 10 months ago
I dunno WHAT it is with this thing, but you click on "reply," and it simply goes to the main comment function: so, therefore, my reply to you is in a separate box again, sigh...[SAD]
soultrawler said 10 months ago
What's to be ashamed, wummun? And no, I don't think it's pathetic at all: it's built into us. You're never too old to get hitched. (The 75 year old widower of a friend of mine just did 3 months ago---after finally giving up on me, ROTFL!)

In my own case, the illusions died, leaving behind an ever so mild cynicism about the whole thing (not to be confused with bitterness): even marrying the optimal mate would require daily travails (at 19, I once heard a lady approaching her 30th wedding anniversary tell my newly-married colleague, "You have to work @ it every day!") [OHMY][TONGUE][THUMBDOWN] I've got more than my share of hard work just dealing with the CFS/FM each day. (And he shore'z heck woon't wanna deal with that, now, wood he? [LOL])

PS: I'm always get a great abs-workout about your self-moniker as "fat Indian squaw" (I think your humour alone would angle you a man, and then, to boot, that intelligence and depth!) [SMILE][HEART]
skyeblue said 10 months ago
You'd think so, wouldn't you? Haha!! But no, nobody can put up with me!![THUMBUP]
tammybleu said 10 months ago
I always liked the 'bad boys'. Guess I was looking for ROBIN HOOD..instead of the prince? But--hey I kissed a lot of frogs...along the way. LOL.

Then when I got old(er)..to quote Martin..I got smarter. I went on a dating site..and wrote..'must have a toolbox'..'I'll cook supper'.. Ha! Not only got the PRINCE with the tool-box..he cooks too!

tammybleu ( who used to be 'tammy wynette'..and sing a lot of 'stand by your man'..[LOL] )
soultrawler said 10 months ago
In my "grey years," I got smarter, too, Tammy: when I was in my early 20's, I couldn't WAIT to really spoil my very own husband. I would've laid my life down for him. HA! Then, I looked around and saw how women got taken for granted @ best, and then dumped after so many years, and I decided, nuh uh, I wasn't going to invest in an emotional Black Hole. (I try as much as possible to cut my losses before I ever have any.)

But I'm with you: I'd want a guy who's handy with a toolbox as well as with a pen. [THUMBUP]
tammybleu said 10 months ago
I just loved the movie Lady and the Tramp..as a child. And flicker, about a horse. I think I liked Cinderella..most because of those cute little mice. Then there was 'Rin-tin-tin'. I once named a dog that. My ex husband said..I was announcing my age! LOL

tammybleu[HEART]
tammybleu said 10 months ago
<:::::AHA!! I look and BEHOLD! There it is! Yipeeee..the link to your new blog..Yipeeeeeee!

t[THUMBUP]